No. The social aspects being better on Xbox One aren't all based on the fact that my friends have one as well. Some of my friends have a PS4, some have a One. Some have both. I don't only play games with the people I know personally. I have met a ton of people on Titanfall and BF4. It's easier to set up a chat, meet friends, send messages, etc. I don't get the attitude either. This is a discussion on what system someone should get. You have your reasons for choosing one, I have my reasons for choosing one.
Fact of the matter is, the PS4 is supported. Duh. Of course it is, but it isn't supported as well as the One is. Period. You don't have to bog through a bunch of screens just to send someone a message. You hit the guide button twice and can send a message in 10 seconds. For some people, like apparently you, that doesn't matter. And that's fine. But it matters to me, and this is a debate on which console is better IN OUR OPINIONS. The UI for the One is just better. Who cares? Fine, I guess that's an acceptable response. If you're going to be using the system a lot, the UI had better matter to you in the long run, because you'll be using it a shit ton.